Taylor Swift and Selena Gomez: A Lifelong Friendship’s Evolution

The pop singers initially crossed paths thanks to their connection with the Jonas Brothers, and their friendship has only grown stronger over time.

Taylor Swift and Selena Gomez share a long-lasting friendship that dates back to 2008. The two first met while they were dating Jonas Brothers (Swift was with Joe Jonas and Gomez was linked to Nick Jonas). They quickly bonded and have since supported each other at award shows, celebrated milestones together, and even collaborated on various projects. Their friendship has been on full display, with Gomez joining Swift on tour and appearing in her “Bad Blood” music video. Their sweetest moments together are a testament to their strong bond. In an interview with KISS FM UK in 2017, Gomez fondly recalled their early days of friendship, reminiscing about their time dating the Jonas Brothers and how they instantly connected. “It was amazing, because [Taylor] was the girl with the big curly hair and all the bracelets and the cowboy boots. And I was definitely up-and-coming, and we just clicked,” Gomez shared, jokingly adding, “It was the best thing we got out of those relationships.”

After spending time together for about a month, Swift made a sweet gesture by joining Gomez at the premiere of her movie, Another Cinderella Story, which marked the beginning of their many red carpet appearances together. In an interview with Seventeen, Gomez mentioned Swift as the friend she turns to for relationship advice. She said, “Whenever I have any problem, Taylor Swift is always there for me! She’s been through it all, being older than me, and she gives the best advice. What I admire about Taylor is her belief in fairy tale love, Prince Charming, and soulmates. Thanks to her, I still believe in love. We chat literally every single day.”

At the 2011 People’s Choice Awards, Swift and Gomez both scored impressive wins and were there to support each other throughout the event. They were seen backstage posing proudly with their well-deserved trophies – Gomez claimed the title of favorite breakout artist, while Swift took home the award for favorite country artist.

Swift and Gomez exuded old-school Hollywood elegance while gracing the red carpet at the Vanity Fair Oscar Party in February of 2011.

In the following months, Swift and Gomez had a blast at the American Music Awards, where they were seen grooving to the music, chatting with various stars like Katy Perry, Nicki Minaj, and Gomez’s beau at the time, Justin Bieber.

Attendees of Swift’s Madison Square Garden show were in for a surprise when the singer invited Gomez to join her in singing the hit song “Who Says.” The concert also featured a special appearance by James Taylor, and fans were thrilled to see the trio posing together backstage after the show.

On Gomez’s 21st birthday celebration, Swift took to Twitter to send a heartfelt message to her dear friend. Along with a snapshot of them standing next to a mermaid sculpture, Swift expressed her well wishes by saying, “Cheers to 21 years, to my close companion, and the sibling I’ve always wanted, @selenagomez!!”

The pair stunned in gorgeous navy dresses at the MTV Video Music Awards, with Swift excitedly hugging Gomez when she won best pop video. After a fun time at the Met Gala 2014, Gomez shared a sweet video of their playful antics in their elegant gowns, highlighting the bond of true friendship. Following the debut of Swift’s 1989 album, Gomez expressed her admiration on Instagram with a collage of photos celebrating their special moments together. She expressed her joy and pride in their close relationship, reminiscing about their private listening parties and encouraging everyone to buy Swift’s album.

Swift received a warm embrace from her famous friends at the American Music Awards, including Gomez, Lorde, and Karlie Kloss, as she claimed the coveted Dick Clark Award for Excellence. The star-studded moment was a highlight of the evening, with Swift visibly moved by Gomez’s heartfelt performance of “The Heart Wants What It Wants.” In a sweet gesture for Swift’s birthday, Gomez flaunted a manicure with a heart design featuring their initials “S” and “T” on social media. The caption read, “I mean it’s my bff birthday weekend so…. @taylorswift #NYC @sweetbcreations for doin me up :)” The bond between these best friends is clearly strong and enduring.

Swift and Gomez shared a warm embrace with Lorde as they all hit up HBO’s exclusive Golden Globes afterparty in 2015.

Swift and Gomez dressed to the nines for a delightful tea party with Ellie Goulding and the Haim sisters in Los Angeles. In the past, the duo portrayed friends who became foes in the singer’s popular “Bad Blood” music video, which boasted appearances by a range of celebrities including Zendaya and Kendrick Lamar.

On stage at the Staples Center in L.A., Swift and Gomez teamed up for a memorable performance of Swift’s popular song “Good For You.” Both artists were decked out in matching black and white outfits as they confidently made their way across the stage. Gomez took to Instagram following the show to express her excitement about the experience, mentioning their long-lasting friendship and the thrill of performing together in front of a large crowd. “After being friends for almost eight years, I can’t wait to one day tell our children that we actually had the opportunity to sing in front of thousands of incredibly beautiful people together. Twice!” she wrote, showing her love for Swift with hashtags like #bestnightEVER and #whatISlife.

During the MTV VMAs in 2015, Swift celebrated winning video of the year for “Bad Blood” with Gomez by her side, who had starred in the hit music video. Before the event, Swift walked the red carpet with other costars from the video, such as Gigi Hadid, Martha Hunt, Hailee Steinfeld, and Cara Delevingne. To mark Swift’s birthday in 2015, Gomez shared a sweet throwback picture of the two of them with a caption expressing her gratitude for their friendship: “I can’t imagine life without you Taylor. Happy birthday!”

Swift and Gomez transformed the 2016 Grammys into a fun girls’ night, sharing a warm embrace on the red carpet. Swift went on to make history by becoming the first woman to win album of the year twice, with Gomez cheering proudly from the audience.

The singers backstage were very supportive of each other after winning big awards. Gomez won the biggest triple threat award, while Swift took home the best tour award for her 1989 tour. Recently, Swift shared a throwback photo of her and Gomez making a heart with their hands to celebrate Gomez’s birthday. She expressed her gratitude towards Gomez, stating, “Going through old pictures today, because @selenagomez just turned 24! I can’t imagine my life without you, Selena. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!” After a quiet year, Gomez took to Instagram to wish Swift a happy birthday in December. She expressed her admiration for Swift’s ability to articulate thoughts and thanked her for being authentic and inspiring. Gomez also praised Swift’s big heart and bold personality, ending with a message of love for the singer.

Gomez made a surprise appearance at another one of Swift’s concerts as they sang “Hands to Myself” together during her Reputation tour in Pasadena, California. Both artists shared their excitement about the performance on Instagram. Swift praised Gomez for her killer performance and expressed her love for her, while Gomez posted a cute backstage selfie with Swift, stating how grateful she is for their friendship. Even when they can’t be together, Swift made sure to send Gomez a sweet treat for her birthday – a pink cake with “GOMEZ OR GO HOME” written on it. Despite the distance, Swift took to Instagram to show off the cake and express her determination not to let anything stop her from celebrating her best friend. During an Instagram Live video, Gomez responded to a fan’s question about Swift, calling her amazing and like a big sister to her. Gomez also shared that Swift is the first person she goes to when she records new music, highlighting the strong bond they share. In a cover story with WSJ. Magazine, both stars opened up about their decade-long friendship, with Swift expressing how she will always have Gomez’s back and how important their sisterhood is to her. Gomez, in turn, shared how much Swift has supported her through tough times, showing up for her in ways she never expected. Swift even made a cameo on HBO Max’s Selena + Chef, where the two friends FaceTimed about a cooking triumph of Gomez’s. Swift joked about wanting the recipe for Gomez’s Korean barbeque Texas breakfast taco, showing the playful and supportive dynamic of their friendship.

During her debut performance of the 10-minute rendition of “All Too Well” on Saturday Night Live, Swift had her friend Gomez by her side backstage. The two buddies also filmed an adorable TikTok together, which quickly gained popularity on the app.

Before Gomez’s milestone 30th birthday celebration, Swift quietly enjoyed dinner with the actress. “30, nerdy and worthy,” the Only Murders in the Building actress captioned two photos of herself and Swift at a table. During an interview with Rolling Stone before the release of her My Mind and Me documentary, Gomez briefly mentioned Swift, discussing her struggles to connect with others in the industry. “I never really fit in with the cool celebrity girls. My only real friend in the industry is Taylor [Swift], so I always felt like I didn’t belong. I saw everyone around me leading full lives, and I began to question whether material possessions truly made me happy. I didn’t recognize myself because I didn’t really know who I was.” Upon the release of Gomez’s Apple TV+ documentary, Swift expressed her support on Instagram, sharing the trailer with the message, “So proud of you. Love you forever.” On April 1, Gomez attended Swift’s Eras Tour in Arlington, Texas, wearing a Folklore cardigan as she danced along with her sister Gracie, who sported a purple dress reminiscent of Swift’s Speak Now era. During the show, the “22” singer even gifted Gracie her fedora hat from her Red set. After dropping Speak Now (Taylor’s Version), Swift posted photos from her Fourth of July celebration on Instagram, featuring the Haim sisters and Gomez. “Happy belated Independence Day from your local neighborhood independent girlies,” Swift captioned a series of photos, including adorable polaroids of herself and Gomez. As Swift concluded the first leg of her Eras Tour in Los Angeles, Gomez and her sister Gracie were seen in the audience. In a heartwarming video shared on Instagram, Gomez could be seen singing along to Swift’s song “Lover” while embracing a visibly emotional Gracie in the crowd. Swift showed her support for Gomez’s new single, “Single Soon,” by sharing a reel originally posted by Gomez on her Instagram Story. “When your bestie is the bestest,” Swift wrote, adding, “Will be dancing to this forever, methinks.”

At the MTV VMAs, the pop singers showcased their lovely friendship for all to see. Even though they were not seated next to each other, they made sure to capture some moments together in photos and were spotted cheering each other on from the audience as they both walked away with some well-deserved awards.

Swift had a glamorous night out in New York City alongside her squad at the Bond St restaurant in November. Her crew included the likes of Gomez, Sophie Turner, Gigi Hadid, Cara Delevingne, and Brittany Mahomes. Gomez recently made her relationship with producer Benny Blanco official, and the “Single Soon” artist joined Swift for a night of laughs at Ramy Youssef’s comedy show in NYC. The star-studded event, which featured Cara Delevingne, Anya Taylor-Joy, and Zoë Kravitz, donated all its proceeds to support the humanitarian crisis in the Middle East through the American Near East Refugee Aid (ANERA).

At the 2024 Golden Globes, Taylor Swift and Selena Gomez beautifully demonstrated their close friendship as they chatted and laughed together. As the evening progressed, the two stars were spotted engaged in a private conversation with Keleigh, Miles Teller’s wife, exchanging whispers and surprised expressions. The video quickly became a hit online, sparking speculation among fans about the topic of their discussion.